"Guys, so recently I was going through my DMs on Instagram and I received a DM from a girl..."
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She shared how her boyfriend and his parents were making her feel insecure—her self-confidence at its lowest.
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Today, I want to share with you what you can do when someone is trying to make you feel insecure about yourself.
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This applies whether it’s your parents, friends, or a partner.
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Notice the Insults: Pay attention to the kind of insults someone is giving you
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Ask yourself: Are they insulting your intelligence, your looks, your weight, or your character?
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Understand the Projection: "When someone comments something, they're just revealing how they feel about themselves."
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For example, a high school friend of mine used to leave nasty comments on Instagram models—because deep down, her own insecurities were showing.
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Know Who You Are:
"Find yourself again. Know who you are, honey."
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When you truly know what you like, what you love about yourself, and how you treat yourself daily, no one can shake your confidence.
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Let Insults Roll Off:
When you know who you are, insults become like water off a duck—one ear in, one ear out.
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"Someone cannot tell you, 'Hey, you're purple,' when you know you're not purple."
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Don’t Tolerate Disrespect:
"Never allow anyone to talk down on you."
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The first time you let someone disrespect you, it opens the door for more toxic behavior.
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Respond with Confidence:
Give a passive-aggressive comeback if needed—for example, if his mother says, "You don't look good today,"
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you might say, "Thank you, but you know I love to look at you because you inspire me to be confident."
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Know When to Walk Away:
"Either you cut it from there and you're like, 'Okay, get out, get out,' or you make them learn their lesson."
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If someone continually brings you down, know that you deserve better. You are too good—"you're too pretty for this." Create your exit plan and leave.
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Surround Yourself with Positivity:
Look at the people you surround yourself with.
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If they aren’t lifting you up or are constantly negative, ask yourself why you’re giving them your precious energy.
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Value Yourself:
"Protect yourself. No one is going to do that for you."
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You deserve to be treated like the king or queen that you are—hype yourself up, and don't settle for anyone who doesn't.
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Stop Settling:
"We accept the love that we think we deserve."
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Don’t allow yourself to be stuck with someone who disrespects you. Your life won’t change if you continue forgiving behavior that brings you down.
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Plan Your Exit:
Quietly work on your exit plan—save money, find friends or a community that uplifts you, and prepare to leave when you’re ready.
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Realize It’s a Gain:
"Not everyone you lose is a loss."
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Sometimes, letting go is a gain. Every toxic relationship teaches you a lesson and makes room for the right people to come in.
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"Value yourself, protect yourself, and remember: you are the queen on Earth."
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Don't allow anyone to drag you down. Create a life where you’re surrounded by people who build you up, where you set clear boundaries, and where you never settle for less than you deserve.
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I love you guys so much. I hope you learned something from this. See you in the next video—bye-bye!
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